I love writing to share my thoughts. These are articles I have written on the topic of Leadership, emotional intelligence, coaching, strengths, well-being, personal values and my Christian beliefs.
Many people in Singapore use CliftonStrengths and StrengthsFinder interchangeably but there is an important story behind the name change. As a Gallup Gold Certified CliftonStrengths Coach, Victor Seet breaks down what the tool actually is, what changed in 2015, and why it matters for how you use your results.
Ontological coaching is one of the most powerful and least understood coaching approaches available today. Singapore Newfield Certified Coach and ICF PCC Victor Seet shares what it is, how he uses it, and what makes it distinctly different from other coaching methodologies.
There is a kind of grief that has no funeral, no sympathy cards, and no socially accepted space to mourn. Such is the grief of friendships that quietly disappear. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explores why this loss deserves to be taken seriously.
"I am no longer the same person you married." It sounds like progress but it can quietly fracture a marriage. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explores the hidden fault line that personal growth sometimes creates between couples.
Some people don't express emotion, not because they don't feel, but because they built a wall to survive. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares his own story of discovering the wall that was quietly damaging his marriage.
Trust isn't about handing over your passwords or your secrets. It's about what you put on the line - your sense of worth, safety, identity, and belonging. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explores 8 types of loss that make broken trust so deeply painful.
Most people believe trust, once broken, can never be fully restored. Or that a sincere apology is enough to repair it. Singapore team coach Victor Seet debunks 8 of the most common myths about how trust actually works in teams, marriages, and leadership.
In CliftonStrengths terms, a weakness is often just a strength being overplayed. But how you respond to that matters enormously. Singapore coach Victor Seet shares four distinct archetypes that describe how people handle their weaknesses and which approach actually leads to growth.
It's rarely the topic that makes a conversation difficult. It's the fear underneath. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet unpacks 9 specific hidden fears that stop people from having the conversations that matter most, at work, at home, and in leadership.
The search for our true self is one of the most universal human journeys yet few practical guides exist for how to actually pursue it. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares five specific ways to begin uncovering who you really are beneath the roles you play.
Shame rarely announces itself in the workplace. It shows up quietly as silence in meetings, defensiveness under feedback, or the person who never volunteers an opinion. Singapore team coach Victor Seet shares what shame language and behaviour actually look like at work.
Shame and honour culture runs deep in Singapore and across Asia, shaping how people perform, how they speak up, and how they handle failure. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explores its effects and shares his own story of moving from a life shaped by shame to one anchored in courage.
Most people have heard of CBT. Far fewer understand ontological coaching or why the distinction matters. Singapore Newfield Certified Coach Victor Seet breaks down both approaches and explains what makes ontological coaching uniquely powerful for sustainable transformation.
Getting your CliftonStrengths results is just the beginning. The real question is: how do you actually use them at work? Singapore Gallup Gold Certified Coach Victor Seet shares three practical areas where your strengths can make an immediate difference.
Most team building activities are forgotten within weeks. Singapore Gallup Gold Certified Coach Victor Seet explains why CliftonStrengths creates something more lasting and shares 8 specific reasons why hundreds of teams across Singapore and Asia have chosen it over conventional team building programs
Are you one of those who read the book Strengths-Based Leadership and wonder about how to interpret the four domains? Or are you one of those who got your results and wondered what the colors mean? Singapore CliftonStrengths Gallup Certified Coach, Victor Seet, gives his input and insights about the Four Domains of Leadership Strength and how leaders can interpret their results.
We all have blindspots - patterns of behaviour we can't see in ourselves but that are obvious to everyone around us. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explains why uncovering them is one of the most important things a leader can do.
Some of the most effective working partnerships come from people whose strengths look nothing alike. Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet shares more examples of unlikely but powerful strength pairings in this second instalment of his complementary partnerships series.
We tend to gravitate toward people who think like us. But in CliftonStrengths terms, the most powerful partnerships often come from people whose strengths are almost opposite. Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet explores why and what these unlikely pairings look like in practice.
Resistance to learning is rarely about intelligence or motivation. It's almost always about beliefs and invisible assumptions that quietly block us from growing. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares 15 specific beliefs he has observed holding people back, drawn from his coaching work with leaders and teams.
Most people try to perform their way to higher capacity. But capacity doesn't grow through effort alone. It grows through a deliberate, structured approach. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares five steps to build your performance capacity in a sustainable way.
You have probably heard of commitment to a task. But have you heard of a commitment to a mood? Singapore Ontological Coach, Victor Seet, explains this powerful distinction and why becoming aware of the moods we unconsciously commit to is a game-changer for self-awareness.
Loneliness is rising in Singapore, even as the city grows more connected digitally. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares what he observed facilitating a community loneliness dialogue, and what it reveals about the kind of connection we are all quietly hungry for.
Emotional intelligence and CliftonStrengths are usually treated as separate topics. Singapore Gallup Gold Certified Coach Victor Seet explains how the two are deeply connected and how your unique strengths profile can become a practical tool for building greater emotional intelligence.
Most managers focus on what they say in a conversation. Far fewer pay attention to the emotional mood that surrounds it. Singapore ICF team coach Victor Seet explains why understanding emotions and moods is one of the most underrated leadership skills and how to develop it.
The demand for coaching in organisations is rising but many leaders still see it as something external consultants do. Singapore ICF PCC Coach Victor Seet makes the case for why coaching is a leadership competency every organisation needs to develop from within.
The Chinese language encodes emotional wisdom that modern psychology is only beginning to catch up with. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explores what Chinese characters reveal about emotions and how this perspective can unlock a deeper understanding of our inner world.
Many professionals feel they are busy but not fulfilled, working hard but not sure it means anything. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares the questions that help his coaching clients move from feeling purposeless to finding genuine meaning in their work.
What if understanding your spouse's top CliftonStrengths could completely reframe the behaviours that frustrate you most? Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet shares how this tool transformed communication in his own marriage and how it can do the same for yours.
Most people think listening is about what you hear. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet challenges this assumption, exploring how our five senses each play a role in truly deep listening, and why developing this kind of presence transforms leadership and relationships.
We don't listen with our ears alone. We listen through our mood and the stories our mood generates can completely distort what we actually hear. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet explains this overlooked dimension of listening and what it means for leaders and relationships.
Creative people often have the ideas but struggle with the influence. Singapore ICF coach Victor Seet shares 13 principles that help creative individuals exercise real leadership, not by becoming someone they're not, but by leading from their natural strengths.
Mental health conversations are increasing but are we actually listening? Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares why genuine listening may be one of the most important responses to the mental health challenges facing individuals, workplaces, and communities in Singapore today.
Do you struggle to be a good listener? Ontological Leadership Coach Victor Seet shares about his journey of learning to listen and highlights the power of noticing to bring forth a real change.
Have you felt defeated by your resentment, by your anger, by your anxiety and worries? In this article, Ontological Leadership Coach Victor Seet writes about his own painful realisation and what he now aspires to do - help others take ownership of their emotions.
Many might think working with emotions belong to the work of counsellors and therapists. Working with emotions in coaching might sound strange for some. In this article, Ontological Leadership Coach Victor Seet writes about why and how can a coach work with clients in the areas of their emotions.
Do you desire for a deep and open conversations with your loved ones at home? Imagine a rich conversation taking place in the family about what each other is doing right? Singapore Gallup Certified Coach, Victor Seet, interviewed a family of five who experienced the transforming power of a coaching conversation over their CliftonStrengths results.
Everyone experience conflicts. It is however not necessary easy to resolve conflicts. Singapore CliftonStrengths Coach, Victor Seet, shares how the CliftonStrengths profiling tool can be used for conflict resolutions.
Experiencing tension in your partnership with someone? Wondering what started out as a great partnership has now caused some anxiety? Ontological Leadership Coach, Victor Seet, writes about navigating polarities using the specific example of complementary partnerships.
Gallup reports in its research that a manager plays a huge part in determining if an employee will be engaged at work. Singapore CliftonStrengths Coach, Victor Seet, shares how he uses his CliftonStrengths results to grow himself as a manager.
We can only intervene in what we can see. This article is about how the process of therapy had helped to give a name to an emotion which had troubled the writer. That empowered him and brought a change in his marriage.
Not everyone learns the same way and the difference goes deeper than learning styles. Singapore ontological coach Victor Seet shares four archetypes that reveal how people fundamentally relate to learning itself, and what each archetype needs to grow.
Knowing your team's CliftonStrengths results is one thing. Actively leveraging them as a manager is another. Singapore Gallup Gold Certified Coach Victor Seet shares practical ways managers can use strengths awareness to lead their teams more effectively every day.
Having issues with high blood pressure? Aiming to lose weight? I finally achieved what I could not do in 20 years. This is a story about getting my physical health in shape.
Humility is widely admired in leaders but rarely discussed in practical terms. How do you actually grow it? Singapore ICF coach Victor Seet explores what genuine humility looks like in leadership and offers concrete ways to develop it, drawn from his coaching and personal experience.
Ever wondered why some people make decisions almost instantly while others take much longer and why this creates friction in teams? Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet explains how certain strength themes are fundamentally shaped by speed, and what this means for teamwork.
Why are some people always focused on the future while others constantly draw on history and experience? Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet explains how time-orientation is built into certain talent themes and what it means when people with very different time perspectives work together.
When we think about genuine strength, the image of a mother is rarely far behind. Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet shares a personal tribute to mothers - exploring the quiet, consistent strengths they embody every single day.
What do great teachers in Singapore have in common, at least in terms of their natural talents? Singapore Gallup Certified Coach Victor Seet shares his research findings on the most frequently occurring CliftonStrengths themes among educators, and what they mean in practice.
Is your worship being limited to praying and singing hymns and songs in church? How does one worship God in the workplace? Victor shares seven practical ways that he has been working on.
Have you met people who seem to always talk about what they lack rather than what they have? Are you one of those who might even be guilty of this? As a Christian, Victor Seet shares his personal thoughts about how the deficit mentality seems to be robbing many from receiving God's grace and how this can be overcome
Are you one of those who wondered why many Christians seem to be feeling disengaged in church, especially among young people? Victor Seet shares some insights and also some practical steps people can do to increase the level of engagement.
What happens when a couple sits down together with their CliftonStrengths results and genuinely tries to understand each other's natural talents? Singapore CliftonStrengths coach Victor Seet interviews a couple who did exactly that and shares what they discovered.
How do you feel when you first got your StrengthsFinder Assessment Results? Do you feel disappointed? Were you skeptical? Singapore StrengthsFinder Gallup Certified Coach, Victor Seet, opens up and shares his own experience.
What would CliftonStrengths sound like if it were translated into Singlish? Singapore Gallup Certified Coach Victor Seet gives it a go, translating his own top 5 themes into the uniquely Singaporean vernacular, with warmth, humour, and genuine insight.
How similar or different are you from your sibling? Meet a pair of siblings in Singapore who not just have the same top 5 strengths but also have all of their top 5 in the relationship building domain. Singapore Strengthsfinder Gallup Certified Coach, Victor Seet, conducts an interview with both Angeline and Pamela to hear their stories.
How does a Singapore counsellor use her CliftonStrengths results in her day-to-day work with clients? Singapore Gallup Certified Coach Victor Seet interviews Chrystella Lo to find out, with practical takeaways for anyone in a helping profession wondering how to apply their strengths at work.
Joey Ong is one of the rare people in the world whose entire top 5 CliftonStrengths themes sit within the Influencing domain. Singapore Gallup Certified Coach Victor Seet interviews her to explore what that experience is really like, the gifts, the challenges, and what she has learned about leading with influence.
Being a youth pastor is one of the most demanding and rewarding roles Victor Seet has held. Singapore coach and former youth pastor Victor Seet shares honest reflections on what he learned over a decade of ministry and how a strengths-based approach changed everything about how he engaged young people.
Fatherhood has been one of Victor Seet's most profound teachers. Singapore CliftonStrengths coach and dad Victor Seet shares personal reflections on what parenting has revealed about strengths, vulnerability, faith, and what it really means to show up for the people who need you most.
It's one thing to coach others on using their CliftonStrengths at work. It's another to live it yourself. Singapore Gallup Certified Coach Victor Seet shares an honest personal reflection on how he applied his own strengths to pursue his goals and what he learned in the process.
What does it look like when a Singapore teacher uses her CliftonStrengths results to become a better educator? Singapore Gallup Certified Coach Victor Seet interviews Charmain Han, who shares how understanding her natural talents changed the way she teaches, connects with students, and finds meaning in her work.
Knowing what you fear in a difficult conversation is only the first step. The harder question is: what do you actually do next? Singapore ICF coach Victor Seet shares 7 practical steps that help leaders, managers, and individuals walk into their most dreaded conversations with clarity and courage.